Anyone who knows me, knows that I am afraid of dogs. Though through the many years of my life my fear has lessened dramatically by the help of a dog named Babette.
Babette is Lisa's adorable friend who is a King something or other. Babette's eyes are soulful, sweet and full of longing. From the first time I saw Babette, six years ago, I have thought that if ever I had a dog it would be one like Babette.
Today at breakfast Babette sat by me. Didn't move just sat by my side. Years ago I could not go into someone's house if they had a dog. I could not get out of the car is a dog was in the yard. I was that afraid.
Silly but true.
Over the years my fear has lessened, it has been a slow process, with the help of many gentle furry creatures, especially due to Babette. Usually I give myself a pep talk when I see a dog, "You can do this, just don't look at them, you do not have to touch them..."
But today was different.
Lisa asked if she could take a photo of me with Babette, and I agreed so I could remind myself how much I have grown to accept that dogs are not killers.
I held out my hand to Babette. At first I was very scared even though Babette just looked at me, and did not move. So I thought, "Wow look I can put my hand out and it isn't getting bit off!"
And when I finally relaxed and felt like I had taken a giant step for me-kind, Babette kissed me.
It was a wet kiss and freaked me out, though from the photo I can see I did not move my hand, yeah me, and Babette is looking at me kindly with gentle consideration for my silliness. The next time I see her I am going to push the limits and hold her.
Thank you Lisa for the photos.
I am so proud of you!. Everyone has fears and they can seem impossible to get over, but look at how great you are doing! Babette is the perfect dog to help a person realize that dogs can be gentle caring beasts,
Posted by: Kipper | 10 April 2016 at 09:54 PM
I can relate to this very much! Agreeing with Kipper above, this is a huge thing and yes, proud of you for even trying and happy you succeeded!
I too have a fear of dogs, even family dogs, "kid friendly", whatever. My older sister informed me that as a toddler I was mauled pretty badly by a friend's family pet, so that's my background. I am still stone cold fearful!
The deal is, I am also one of those people animals are drawn to, horses (also a fear), dogs, birds, cats (even the ones people say NEVER go to other people) all of these - fish in aquariums! -they all approach me, sit on me, fly to me, nudge the glass, its very strange. I love the attention of cats, they talk to me, (I'm allergic, but I can't resist them!), but most of the other animals I could easily be happy viewing from a distance!
Posted by: pc brown | 10 April 2016 at 11:17 PM
This post got me all teared up- no fear is silly - we all have them just the details are different- I adore these photos-
Posted by: g | 10 April 2016 at 11:25 PM
Those photo's are adorable! Priceless...well done Miss C.
Posted by: Jacklynn Lantry | 10 April 2016 at 11:39 PM
Babette looks to be a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cavalier_King_Charles_Spaniel
We know what YOU were thinking, but I wonder what was going through Babette's head ;-)
Posted by: Kathie | 11 April 2016 at 01:09 AM
I am so proud of you! It is very difficult to face our fears and you are very brave and making so much progress. Bravo Babette too.
Posted by: nancy w | 11 April 2016 at 02:01 AM
Fear is real, any fear of anything.
I doubt I could face my fears the way
you have. Awesome !!!!
I am AFRAID of spiders and high places.
I go totally crazy when faced with either.
Yep, fear is a real deal.
Posted by: Janet Eiffel | 11 April 2016 at 03:41 AM
I had little dogs as a kid. my kids had dogs of all sizes while they were growing up. I liked them little & didn't like big dogs at all... fast forward to adult life. I adopted a small dog in my 50's. He helped me so much while my family was away. Now, I have a fun little terrier who also helps get me going, loves interaction, etc. Yeps, I'm still into small dogs & am not fond of big ones.... but, I've learned to not be afraid everytime I interact with my kids' big dogs. I'm very happy that your little "king" friend encourages you to engage with her...she is a patient, lovely creature. Maybe next year we'll see you smiling, walking her, giving treats!?!
Posted by: jh | 11 April 2016 at 04:51 AM
Great pictures, Corey. Bravo for taking a chance.
As someone once said:
“The world would be a nicer place if everyone had the ability to love as unconditionally as a dog.”
Posted by: Diogenes | 11 April 2016 at 05:05 AM
Little Babette with her pretty Black and White coat probably thought you were "kin" in your Black and White outfit! Such an adorable pic!
I thought my daughter was crazy when she got an English Bulldog with those 2 spiked teeth always standing up between her tongue. Now I love her and think Stella is the cutest dog ever! She has the sweetest personality and always welcomes me....it warms my heart. I'm glad you've made these strides:)
Posted by: dee | 11 April 2016 at 05:06 AM
So glad you could feel more comfortable with this sweet doggie. What adorable photos!
Posted by: isabel | 11 April 2016 at 06:40 AM
Two sweet girls...
Posted by: Jamie Earles | 11 April 2016 at 07:53 AM
Bravo, Corey. I am happy for you!
Posted by: Leslie in Oregon | 11 April 2016 at 09:05 AM
Oh Corey, Corey. Babette is not just a King something-or-other... she is a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and they are the only dogs in Britain with a royal decree stating that they can go into all public places in England. (That was back in the day of King Charles II).
They are also THE SWEETEST dogs ever with a beautiful temperament. You choose well when you allow her to kiss your hand.
P.S. -- My little Cavalier passed away on November 1st and she was absolutely wonderful. We miss her so much.
Posted by: Kim | 11 April 2016 at 09:19 AM
Bravo, what a huge step for you, I can imagine you must have been terrified, but Babette looks like the absolute sweetest of dogs, our next door neighbour has just got a Cavalier King Charles puppy, he is so adorable.
Posted by: Our French Oasis | 11 April 2016 at 10:10 AM
Well done, Corey!! This is measurable, absolute progress. Just keep in mind, 'dog' is 'God' spelled backwards.
Posted by: Barbara G | 11 April 2016 at 10:39 AM
What a gorgeous photo! I have a king Charles too, they are gorgeous, gentle dogs who just want to make you happy (well most of the time anyway!). Ours loves giving kisses too ☺
Posted by: Catherine | 11 April 2016 at 01:36 PM
Proud of you Corey! Sweet wet kisses from Babette.
Posted by: Deb Archer | 11 April 2016 at 06:08 PM
I couldNOT LIVE without MY DOG!!!!!!!!!
THEY GIVE SO MUCH LOVE!
THEN AGAIN YOU have FRENCH HUSBAND who does THAT!
GET OVER THE FEAR............YOU will be SO HAPPY YOU DID!
XX
Posted by: La Contessa | 11 April 2016 at 06:40 PM
Oh Kim, I'm so sorry for your loss. Our companion animals do capture our hearts, don't they?
Posted by: Kathie | 11 April 2016 at 06:54 PM
Chacun à son goût.
Posted by: Kathie | 11 April 2016 at 06:55 PM
Good for you for putting your hand out. Babette is teaching you to love those furry animals. I loved them until I did get bit, after that I have been cautious especially with barking dogs.
Posted by: Marilyn | 11 April 2016 at 07:17 PM
Corey, I am proud of you. Babette was so sweet and kind and waited for you to make the move. Nice to have new friend.
Posted by: Sharon Nicholes | 11 April 2016 at 07:58 PM
Good for you. I'm not afraid of dogs, but I imagine that must be so hard because people allow their dogs to go up to people and sniff them or jump on them. My daughter Grace had a photo shoot with a wolf. I imagine you wouldn't want to do that. http://paulita-ponderings.blogspot.com/2016/04/grace-and-wolf.html /"> Here’s a link to the post of Grace with a wolf
Posted by: Paulita | 11 April 2016 at 09:01 PM
It is really a huge step when we can conquer a fear....really impressed that you worked so hard. It's a good lesson for me...
Ali
Posted by: Ali | 11 April 2016 at 10:41 PM
Good for you. I have always been afraid of dogs but find French dogs so much better than American ones. Much calmer. Not as worried about territory or as eager to play. However, yesterday, we were invited to a dinner and a little girl guest was really scared of the dog, a new one in that household. It was a little mop of hair, and she even asked whether it had eyes. I told her that I was scared of dogs, but not this one. Well, shortly thereafter, the owner explained that it was a rescue dog and that it had a biting problem! YIKES
Posted by: D | 11 April 2016 at 10:49 PM
Brava!!! This is such a wonderful step forward for you. My Ben is a Golden Retriever. He too has soulful eyes and has helped a few friends that are scared of dogs to trust. It is beautiful to see. Thank you for sharing this with us, it is inspiring!
Posted by: Heather in Arles | 11 April 2016 at 11:41 PM
Love this! And Babette didn't seem to cringe either!
Posted by: Mardog | 12 April 2016 at 03:29 AM
Oh, Puff. If I can get over being bitten in the face by a dog, so can you. It will open you up to a whole new world.
xof
Posted by: Franca Bollo | 12 April 2016 at 05:40 AM
I think she had jam on her fingers.
Posted by: Franca Bollo | 12 April 2016 at 05:41 AM
Perhaps you should screw up your courage to pet Babette on the head before trying to make yourself actually hold her.
Posted by: Rebecca from the pacific northwest | 13 April 2016 at 12:46 AM
I agree with Franca Bollo. Musta been jam.
(Hi Franca B!!)
Posted by: Rebecca from the pacific northwest | 13 April 2016 at 12:46 AM
Wait. Were you both really bitten in the face, Corey too?
Posted by: Rebecca from the pacific northwest | 13 April 2016 at 12:47 AM
"Jenny kiss’d me when we met,
Jumping from the chair she sat in;
Time, you thief, who love to get
Sweets into your list, put that in!
Say I’m weary, say I’m sad,
Say that health and wealth have miss’d me,
Say I’m growing old, but add,
Jenny kiss’d me. "
--Leigh Hunt 1784–1859
[Just substitute "Babette" for "Jenny"]
Posted by: Rebecca from the pacific northwest | 13 April 2016 at 12:49 AM
I believe in diving in, lol.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:28 AM
I wasn't.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:28 AM
If I were bitten in the face I probably would be worse than I am. When did that happen to you? :(
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:29 AM
Not even!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:30 AM
SHe is too sweet to cringe, the nicest dog ever.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:31 AM
I will have to meet Ben! Maybe there could be a match making with Ben and Babette. Do dogs mix like that?
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:32 AM
Oh scary. Did the little girl try to find his eyes?
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:33 AM
It is indeed. It only has taken me 50 Years, lol.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:34 AM
Wow!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:34 AM
Thank you, it is!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:35 AM
Oh I understand that! Babette doesn't bark. So that helped.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:35 AM
Ah you have gotta lot of love circling you too!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:36 AM
:)
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:37 AM
That is what Lisa told me, that most dogs like Babette are gentle souls.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:37 AM
:)
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:38 AM
If ever I have a dog it will be one like this
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:39 AM
Oh how sad. I imagine how much you miss her. xx
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:40 AM
Those two spike teeth, yes they look mean but they really aren't!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:41 AM
Probably true. But that would take a lot to convince me. If the world had more Babette's than I would agree.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:42 AM
Oh that would be as big as holding her!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:43 AM
It certainly is, and it isn't all bad either; Fear helps us too.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:44 AM
Thank you!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:44 AM
You will have to ask her :)
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:45 AM
:)
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:45 AM
Lisa did a good job of photo journalling the big move.
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:46 AM
How frightening! Mauled! Wow you have a very good reason to be afraid. Maybe animals are drawn near you to heal you?
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:47 AM
I agree! Babette is!
Posted by: French la Vie | 13 April 2016 at 09:48 AM
You are a brave woman....
Posted by: Gracie | 14 April 2016 at 01:47 PM
When I was about 11. Honestly, I was more upset at the possibility of having stitches than having been bitten.
Posted by: Franca Bollo | 15 April 2016 at 02:58 AM
Babette is very sweet. I see how she could bring you over to the "dog side."
Posted by: Jen | 22 April 2016 at 03:04 AM