Shelley is my childhood friend who lives in my hometown in California. She has ALS and has lived with it for over thirteen years. Shelley is paralyzed from the neck down and on a breathing machine. YET, she lives a fuller life than most who have working arms and legs. She lives true to the motto, "Do the best you can with what you have." When I hang out with Shelley I soon realize how trivial are the things that get under my skin. Shelley gives the gift of perspective, and she gives it not by words of sorrow or regret, but with with her obvious desire to live and live it with joy.
Shelley is my hero.
Eric, Shelley's husband is her hero, and he is Superman.
A Request
Her hands recall the pleasure,
of holding the day to day petals,
of life's simple pleasures.
Setting the table,
preparing the meal,
wiping her brow.
Her hand imagines the tenderness of her child's skin,
the silk like velvet of youth.
She remembers burying her nose within the folds and smelling her perfume.
My childhood friend Shelley has A.L.S. A disease that robs her, day by day of her life. I have never heard her complain, never seen her shed a tear. She wears courage and grace, as if it were the most natural thing to put on. When your eyes meet hers, you forget that she is seriously ill. Shelley makes you feel like you are the center of the world, she crowns you with her sparkling eyes, and weaves you on adventures with her words.
I have a favor to ask of you. Can you send an email to my friend Shelley? A note of cheer. She cannot respond A.L.S. has taken her movements away.
Can you send her your link, or a site you enjoy, or photo, a video clip, ...Shelley loves interior design, decorating, celebrating, crafts, family, gardening, flea markets, vintage anything...She loves life.
Happy Birthday Beautiful Shelley, and here is to many more days of hope and joy!Photo: A 19th century large
engraving of Madonna and child, that I found at the flea market, in the
bottom of a box.
Of course I'd be delighted to, Corey. Does her husband operate the computer for her? How would she see all the links that are going to come in?
Does she like to have this sort of fun sent to her all the time not only for her birthday do you think. I'll make something special to send regularly if I could know it would a pleasure and not a burden for her.
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Hi Shelley,
Yes, her husband or daughter helps her. It is one of her favorite thing to do. She has slight movement in one finger, so as long as it stays on the mouse she can read blogs. She reads many of them in a day.
Posted by: Shelley Noble | 12 June 2009 at 07:24 AM
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Posted by: Tica | 12 June 2009 at 07:28 AM
Happy Birthday, Shelley. I always think of you when I see flow blue from Corey's earlier mentionings of her friendship with you over the past years.
With love and admiration for you~
Posted by: Donna | 12 June 2009 at 08:54 AM
How lucky you are to have a living-breathing-real-life-angel to call your "Friend".
...as for her husband: I love "Supermen"!!!
I'm on it! ;P
Be well.
Do good.
All ways.
All days.
Posted by: TERI REES WANG | 12 June 2009 at 09:07 AM
I guess you can overcome things like this only if you have a hero as she does :) Love is the answer to most of challenges in Life.
To love and be loved
Thanks again and again Corey
Posted by: Catalina | 12 June 2009 at 09:09 AM
What a wonderful thought for your friend. It's a good reminder to be positive.
I love this engraving of Madonna and Child. I have a little addiction to religous art.
Posted by: Julie | 12 June 2009 at 11:55 AM
I am so happy to send Shelley birthday greetings! And to you, dear Corey, what a wonderful friend you are. Thanks for sharing the love.
Posted by: msmezzo | 12 June 2009 at 12:43 PM
oh, phooey. My email came back as an error. Unfortunately I cannot click on your handy link to send my email (long complicated computer thing I don't understand at all) so I tried to cut and paste the address. phooey. Happy Birthday Shelley. May your day have no computer silliness.
Posted by: msmezzo | 12 June 2009 at 12:49 PM
What a lovely idea, asking people with a common thread to weave together a special birthday present!
I spent the day at an Aboriginal centre learning about what plants were eaten for what purpose and watched about seventy 6 and 7 year olds stand wide eyed as Aboriginal people told their stories and taught their dances.
I had to get up and learn to dance as a Brolga bird ??!! I dont know what a Brolga is but I sure know how it moves after todays experience!
I will look forward to putting a new blog up about it tonight and sending an email to Shelley with a link to it.
I hope that together with all the other comment'ers (? is that a word?!) Shelley gets bombarded with a mind swirling mixture of different messages and stories that will brighten her day.
G xo
Posted by: Gina Baynham | 12 June 2009 at 12:57 PM
Done! Yes of course... what a good idea... what a good friend you are... what a special woman Shelley must be.
Posted by: Nancy | 12 June 2009 at 02:20 PM
Just sent her a mail.
Posted by: Gracie | 12 June 2009 at 02:30 PM
It was a delight for me to send Shelley a Happy Birthday. I tried several times before to send her an e-mail but got it back as Mailer Demon...I hope this one went through. So far so good.
You are a lovely friend and one that I am sure Shelley treasurers.
I hope she gets a lovely Flow Blue as a present today :)
Posted by: Mo'a | 12 June 2009 at 02:34 PM
Of course-it's a done deal! How wonderful of you to have everyone send their links. She may wonder about all your different "friends" - lol!
Posted by: caren | 12 June 2009 at 03:10 PM
Wonderful post. She's an example and I think about her when I see blue china ..
All your friends have wonderful post for their birthday , we are lucky to have you
Posted by: le petit cabinet de curiosites | 12 June 2009 at 03:24 PM
Corey,
Thanks for inviting us to Shelley's Birthday Party. I have sent her, via e-mail, my favorite photo and posted a wish to her on my blog.
Annie in Texas
Posted by: Annie | 12 June 2009 at 03:27 PM
Corey,
I sent my birthday wishes to Shelley. I hope her day is filled with joy and delight and that she feels the love of your readers wrapping itself around her on her special day. You are indeed a precious friend to her.
Posted by: Sandy | 12 June 2009 at 04:20 PM
done and done
xo
Posted by: shannon in oregon | 12 June 2009 at 04:39 PM
Corey thanks for reminding us how truly special each day is and to never take your health for granted.......
God bless your friend Shelley and you.
Love and hugs and prayers
Jeanne♥
Posted by: Jeanne | 12 June 2009 at 04:46 PM
My email has been sent. Blessings on you for being a dear friend to Shelley.
Posted by: marilyn | 12 June 2009 at 04:51 PM
Oh Corey you are such a treasure! I too, will send a special email...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR SHELLEY!!! And sweet kisses to you from me!
Ulla
Posted by: Ulla | 12 June 2009 at 05:31 PM
Hello fellow bloggie, a quick hi and to let you know I presented you with an award, so visit to claim it, (or not)! I know some people are outawarded (is that even a word), and do not want to be bothered accepting any more, I get it and won't take offense (it can be time consuming to fulfill, I know). Anyway, hope you have a terrif weekend and see ya next week! tinks I will also email your friend shelley for you
Posted by: tink | 12 June 2009 at 05:52 PM
Happy Birthday Shelley..Corey your post gave me goose bumps..what a way with words you have.
Posted by: kay | 12 June 2009 at 06:38 PM
As you wish . . . .
Posted by: Catherine | 12 June 2009 at 06:55 PM
Corey I sent a birthday email to your friend Shelley. You are such a wonderful friend. You are a true gem!!!
Posted by: Vicki | 12 June 2009 at 07:38 PM
A perfect moto to live by. Email sent~
Posted by: Vicki's Bit-o-Earth | 12 June 2009 at 08:28 PM
Corey,
What a loving tribute to your cherished life long friend!
I have been touched each time you have spoken to us of your beloved Shelley and would love to send her a little birthday communique.
Sending you a big hug and squeeze for being such a dear soul Corey.
Posted by: Sally | 12 June 2009 at 11:55 PM
Dear Corey,
I sent a birthday wish this morning to your wonderful friend Shelley but I am not sure that it got through to her...I wish her the most Happy of birthdays today and every day of the year! I love the stories that you have told of her. I just booked a trip with my children to see my childhood friend,Noreen, after reading your words about Shelley and you!
Happy Birthday to YOU dear Shelley!
Peace,
Leslie
Posted by: Leslie Garcia | 13 June 2009 at 01:09 AM
Corey,
Thanks for introducing your friend Shelley~
What a beautiful post you did for her. I emailed her. Did you ever go to that castle estate sale?
xx's
Posted by: FrenchBlue | 13 June 2009 at 01:14 AM
What beautiful friends you have in each other, Corey and Shelley! =)
Posted by: Beachy | 13 June 2009 at 01:35 AM
I too just emailed Shelley. You are both so lucky to have such good friends.
Posted by: Sandy | 13 June 2009 at 05:23 AM
What a sweet gesture for your dear friend! I sent her a quick e-mail and included a pic of 2 lavender roses in my garden. Hope she gets to see them and also has a lovely birthday.
Reni
Posted by: Reni (AzReni) | 13 June 2009 at 07:19 AM
How wonderful to have a Shelley in your life. Everyone should have a friendship like that!Just send her a Happy Birthday email.
Have a great weekend, Jeannette
Posted by: Jeannette | 13 June 2009 at 12:12 PM
Done! I think she is going to have a mail box full. You are a good friend Corey!
Blessings to you and yours!
Marcie
Posted by: Marcie | 13 June 2009 at 11:04 PM
Hope her day was filled with love and joy - Happy Birthday, Shelley!
Posted by: tinker | 14 June 2009 at 10:57 AM
Thank you for sharing Shelley with us. I was so happy to wish her a happy birthday.
Posted by: deb | 14 June 2009 at 06:44 PM
I just sent Shelley an email but forgot to tell her happy birthday! I was too busy telling her about my mom who also had ALS and how wonderful things were. I also forgot to send her the link for my blog. I post lots of pictures of country life. I will send another email right away!
Posted by: Lisa from Kentucky | 15 June 2009 at 04:53 AM