My friends Benoit and Nicole are celebrating their marriage today.
Yesterday at Benoit's parent's home we set up for the celebration: a tent the size of a house went up in the garden, tables, chairs, food, a ton of food, preparing party favors, flowers, cakes, and through it all a sense of calm. Not a single frazzled nerve, nor urgency in movement, or high pitched voices. The day went by with many friends stopping in to help, long walks, friendly conversation over cheese and baguettes, and during it all I thought to myself: The next time I plan a party I really need to be more like this, instead of running around like a chicken with her head cut off.
I mentioned to my friend Michelle (Benoit's mother), that I needed to soak up on her laissez-faire attitude. Michelle, laughed and replied, "The party will happen, everyone will enjoy themselves, we will celebrate regardless if the details are perfect or not...."
The details were perfect.
Michelle also said, "... I do the best that I can, and I trust that what I cannot do, will work itself out in the best way."
The wedding celebration is today.
What words of wisdom would you give to a newlywed couple?