French Kissing
"Mommy, do I have the right to kiss a girl?" Sacha asked me with a semi-hopeful look, on his sweet little boy-boy face.
"The right, to kiss a girl? Is there a wrong way to kiss a girl?" Teasingly I winked with my words, though it wasn't funny to Sacha... changing gears I continued on with a serious tone, "Son, are you asking me permission to kiss a girl?"
"Uh-huh, is it possible? Do I have the right to do that?" He was serious! (I love how French words translate sometimes!)
"GEE!! I never asked my Mom permission to kiss anyone. How do I respond to that...as a friend I would say, Yeah kiss her! As your Mom... ( oh these are those tender memorable moments that make childbirth worth it!) Your first kiss is the one you will remember the rest of your life, it is a freeze-frame in time. You only have one first kiss to give...If you want to kiss her, do it with all sincerity, in a moment worthy of the memory!"
"So that means I have the right?" Sacha repeated.
"Yes, you have the right." I said in plain talk.
The days that followed had me asking Sacha, "Did you kiss her?" Each day there was a different reason why he hadn't. The kissable girl was either chewing gum, or there were too many friends around, or the bell rang for class to start... days turned into an empty week.
Finally, with tons of friends around, the bell ringing, and gum in her mouth, she grabbed Sacha and stole his first kiss!
"Did you like it? " I wanted to know.
"Our teeth hit and then she put her tongue in my mouth..."
"STOP! I don't need to know more!"
2003
Update: I posted this story about Sacha, one day short of a year ago. I am re posting it because it is one of my favorites, and I thought for those of you who haven't read it, you might enjoy it too.
Kisses xx (though not French ones, to you xx.)
i am a 13 year old boy i am experiencing kissing. i would like to know how to ask my parnts how to french kiss..
p.s i lved the story..also if you have tips for me tell me plz :) thxu
Posted by: josh | December 31, 2006 at 08:58 AM
I love this story, Corey...
Posted by: Marie-Noëlle | October 25, 2006 at 11:38 PM
I love this story, Corey...
Posted by: Marie-Noëlle | October 25, 2006 at 11:38 PM
With the ghastly news reports in the US of out-of control "entitled" athletes, and kindergartners being suspended for kissing their crusshes, I'm not surprised he asked... It soundes like he'll manage to be respectful...
Posted by: PainterWoman | April 08, 2006 at 09:33 AM
What a great story!! And thanks for visiting and giving me advice on my spring flower. :-) Have a great day!
Posted by: Willie | April 06, 2006 at 04:23 PM
What a sweet little boy ... isn't amazing how fast children grow up and start to "taste" life !
These "first times" should remind us of how important each moment is !
Posted by: Jay* | April 05, 2006 at 07:35 PM
LOL! Very cute story!
Posted by: D | March 29, 2006 at 07:23 AM
Thats so sweet and funny! thanks for sharing it with us!
Posted by: jinxthegypsy | March 28, 2006 at 03:25 PM
What a precious story--and what a great maman you seem to be!
I love this blog--I save it to soak in when the buzzing of busy days gets too loud in my head.
Posted by: Katrina | March 28, 2006 at 12:10 AM
It wasn't my first kiss,but I remember such a kiss I will never forget it! It was just one never to another from him.
Posted by: julie | March 27, 2006 at 10:59 PM
i love it! oh i can't wait for...
Posted by: la vie en rose | March 27, 2006 at 09:42 PM
What a great story and I'm happy to contribute my comment to the entrepreneurial fund!
Posted by: cally | March 27, 2006 at 07:14 PM
When writing this story I had the fondest memories of Sacha (then 10 now 13,) and that time..."Do I have the right to kiss?" is one of my favorite memories...
I saved two parts of the French Kissing story for those who might write a comment to my blog. So for those who wrote here are those two parts not mentioned....
1)
I said to Sacha that famous day,
"Maybe you could start by holding her hand?"
His reply was, "Mommy, her arm is broken."
"Sacha doesn't she have two hands, is the other hand broken too?"
"Mommy, she wants to kiss me, not hold hands! She said, "Sacha, kiss me!" She broke up with her other boyfriend because he was too shy!"
2)
When I asked Sacha if I could tell this story he said, "No!!" at first. Then Chelsea came into the scene and said, "As Sacha's agent...WE agree...on one condition...for every comment you must give Sacha 1 euro and Sacha will give me 20% for this idea."
I am glad you liked the story because it is worth every penny!!
Thanks, Corey
Posted by: Tongue in Cheek | March 27, 2006 at 01:07 PM
tica, this is like an elixer...this window into the mother/son conversation. i have a 13 year old son who completely clams up on the subject of girls, well because honestly, i got too enthusiastic when he said he was thinking of asking a girl on a date. i blew it. i'm so glad your sasha feels able to talk about these things with you. what a gift to all of us! xxoo- snowsparkle
Posted by: snowsparkle | March 26, 2006 at 08:30 AM
What a funny and sweet story. We only have one first kiss.
Posted by: Pumpkin | March 26, 2006 at 07:48 AM
Thomas and I both had a very good laugh about this one! I can only imagine your face at his statement! hehe
kim
Posted by: kim | March 26, 2006 at 07:28 AM
Once again you've sent me back to memory lane....I've been laughing along with the rest...what sweet innocence.....
Posted by: Mary Jane | March 26, 2006 at 05:28 AM
LOL! You do have a good kid, the fact that he is willing to, and wants to communicate with his mother regarding kissing!
Posted by: Gina | March 26, 2006 at 05:14 AM
I have a 13 year old boy and your story made me smile.
I know his day is coming too!
Love to read your blog, it is truly a treat.
Posted by: nancy | March 26, 2006 at 04:52 AM
I LOVE your blog!!! Thank you for visiting mine. I will be back often.
So Wonderful. Young love... I have 2 teenage boys... :)
Posted by: Sandi | March 26, 2006 at 01:30 AM
I love this story... big/little
boys are so sweet...
Posted by: diana | March 25, 2006 at 11:33 PM
oh corey. i had myself in stitches reading this. that is priceless. these moments and the beautiful way you recapture the stories.
but even in the grins and smiles of reading...
i found myself captured by the simplicity, the honesty and the beauty of reading... "You only have one first kiss to give..."
me adores you.
angela
Posted by: angela | March 25, 2006 at 11:19 PM
Oh dear Sacha ... It was a [very] long time ago but I remember my first kiss just as clumsily. Too many teeth in the way, huh? Thankfully ... the first time ... no tongue. There's plenty of time!
Posted by: Kerry | March 25, 2006 at 09:45 PM
Ahhh! That's so precious!!!!
Posted by: josephine | March 25, 2006 at 09:16 PM
oh corey,,how sweet and innocent sacha is,,i love how he came to mom for such and important question,,,great story
Posted by: shelley | March 25, 2006 at 09:01 PM
hello!
i stumbled across your blog recently
and fell in love - and this story is just too sweet not to mention it. :)
xo
stella
Posted by: stella | March 25, 2006 at 08:49 PM
So she kissed you Sacha? Then that means you still own YOUR first kiss to give! Your snippet of delicious memory is still waiting for you to claim it. And with a heart that is so tender that you speak to your mother regarding that special moment, then the first kiss you GIVE to a very special girl will be her memory of a lifetime, I'm sure. That is if it hasn't already occured...? hmmmm? (I can see your cheeks pink from here...)
:o)
Posted by: lauren Mumford | March 25, 2006 at 06:32 PM
Too cute but funny at the same time.
The right...not allowed...
But I guess I'd do that too in translating the French into English... :)
Posted by: expatraveler | March 25, 2006 at 05:37 PM
It was just recently that my 11 year old asked 'what is the difference between a real kiss and a french kiss mom?' I quickly replied well one is done in France... Guess I better warn her... Delightful as usual Corey...
Posted by: ULLA | March 25, 2006 at 04:19 PM
Oh. my. god...that was the funniest thing! Hysterical!!
You must tell us how old your son is. My oldest is 10 and I suspect this may not be too far off...oh dear. I hope I am as graceful and delicate as you were.
a.
Posted by: andrea | March 25, 2006 at 04:18 PM
ones of lifes sweet stories! I can not remember that far back...I hope I did get that kiss!!Or, did I give that kiss....hummmm.Enjoyed the blog today!!
Posted by: jann mumford | March 25, 2006 at 04:02 PM
Wow, that IS a kiss to remember! And what a terrific relationship you have with your son that he'll ask you for your opinion on kissing a girl!
Posted by: susanna | March 25, 2006 at 03:25 PM
I am laughing hysterically right now!!!!!!!! That poor boy, he must've been traumatized.
It reminds me of a story my husband told me (I always seem to have a story that relates to yours...have you noticed ;)
There was a girl who he had a crush on and since he was such a "good boy", her mother didn't mind him hanging out with her daughter. One day they were in the girl's room and she leaned over and kissed him just the way the other girl kissed Sacha. My husband said he was so startled he jumped up and bolted out of the house.
How ironic it is that boys can be so tender and vulnerable when society sees them as assertive and bold. Hahaha.
Posted by: Shannon Lewis | March 25, 2006 at 02:47 PM
aww...what a sweet son you have!
Posted by: cruststation | March 25, 2006 at 02:38 PM
How cute and how true about the first kiss. I remember mine like it was yesterday even thought it has now bee over 35 years! we were at the library and he bent over the book I was reading and kissed me. I responded by punching him in the arm and calling him stupid. Didn't matter a couple of years latter we married. It is a cherished monent frozen in time that I like to revisit.
Posted by: patty van dorin | March 25, 2006 at 02:02 PM
oh dear. too much info.
isn't it funny how we want to know...yet...don't want to know?
Such is the joy of children.
xo
susan
Posted by: susan | March 25, 2006 at 01:55 PM
Your online journal is fabulous!
I am thrilled to visit each day!
Fabulous!
Love Jeanne
Ontario Canada!
Blessings!
Kisses to you all!
Posted by: Jeanne | March 25, 2006 at 12:18 PM